Happiness Unlimited

Summary of 28 episodes conducted by Sister BK Shivani on Astha TV –

Link to Youtube (english) Episode 1 – http://youtu.be/7dNPNtdaMWY

Happiness is not dependent on physical objects.
Objects, possessions, gadgets are designed to give us comfort.
Physical comfort is different from emotional comfort. Happiness is a feeling.
Happiness is our internal creation and can be created irrespective of external comforts.
We use the objects as a stimulus to create a response, but the response is our choice.
Different people create different responses, using the same stimulus.
Happiness is not based on achievement. It is not at the destination, it is on the journey.
Happiness is a state of being, created while working towards the goal, not a feeling to be experienced after
achieving the goal.
Before I take the responsibility of those around me, I need to take responsibility of my own thinking and feelings.
When I am happy and take care of others, then they will be happy.
Happiness is a stable state of mind irrespective of situations, and hence happiness is our strength.
Our wellbeing is dependent on our Physical Health, Mental Health, Social Health and Spiritual Health.
Stress is a pain, which comes to tell me there is something I need to change.
Stress is our creation of wrong thoughts, which has an effect on our efficiency, memory power, decision power
and hence our performance.
Stress has an impact on our physical and emotional wellbeing, and hence any amount of stress is damaging.
Targets, Pressures, Deadlines, Exams are natural, but Stress is our CHOICE.
Stress is equal to PRESSURE (Situations) divided by RESILIENCE (Inner Strength).
My first responsibility in any situation is to first take charge of my state of mind, because that is the only thing
which is in my control.
Our belief systems decide our way of living. We need to experiment what we are learning in order to change our
old belief systems.
I don’t want peace, but I AM PEACE. Now I will be at peace and do things outside.
Try a new belief system, I am a Peaceful Being, now experiment with it, when we experience the result, it is the
Every person I meet every act I do, I will do it with awareness – I am a Peaceful Being.
Happiness is not dependent on people. No one can make me happy and I can’t make others happy, till we want to
do it for ourselves.
No one is responsible for my hurt, pain, fear or anger. It is my own creation in response to their behaviour. I have
another choice.
My responses to people need to be based – on my personality, not based on the behaviour of others.
The way we think and behave is not for other people, but first for ourselves, because we are the first ones to
experience it.
Let’s take charge of our mind, instead of trying to control others and expecting that if they change then my mind
will be in control.
Let us choose how we want to think, feel and be in every relationship. We have always tried to make others
happy, because we thought when they will be happy then I will be happy.
When we do something for others, let us understand that we choose to do it because they matter to us, and so
we are doing it for ourselves, then we will be happy.
Taking our mind to TV, shopping and other distractions is only a deviation from the pain; it is not happiness,
because the healing has not happened.
Our personality is a combination of 5 types of sanskars, i.e. habits or traits.
Some sanskars we get from our parents and family, which we call hereditary sanskars. It is because we are in the
influence of their vibrations.
Then there are sanskars we create because of our environment, our nationality, religion, culture, and friends.
A very important set of sanskars we carry from our past birth. A soul carries its personality traits created in one
costume with it to the next costume.
The fourth types of sanskars are the ones we create through our own will power. We all have the same will
power; it is only for us to use it, because each of us is a powerful being.
The fifth type of sanskars are the original sanskars of every soul, which are – Purity, Peace, Love, Bliss, Knowledge,
Power and Truth.
Self-Awareness means just to watch my thoughts, able to see what I am thinking and to be aware that I am the
creator of these thoughts.
Second step is to check whether this thinking is the right kind of thinking for me. Third step can I change this
We create around 25 to 30 thoughts per minute, i.e. 40,0000 to 50,0000 thoughts in a day.
One type of thoughts is pure, powerful, positive, selfless thoughts. There will be no attachments or expectations.
Second type of thoughts is negative – thoughts of ego, anger, greed, hatred, resentment, fear, rejection, criticism.
Necessary thoughts are thoughts related to action, neutral thoughts. Fourth type are Waste thoughts which are
thoughts about Past or Future, both not in our control.
If we change our thoughts, words and action will change. Hence Personality transformation begins with our
I the peaceful being am the actor, playing different roles of relationships and responsibilities.
When we interact with people let us interact with the soul, the pure being, rather than the acquired body,
positions and achievements.
When we talk through the conscious of our acquired labels, then it is the ego of one talking to the ego of the
In any situation, playing our role with so many actors, let us stop writing their script, because they are not in our
control. Let us write only our script.
When we keep thinking about what others are doing or speaking, we are only depleting our energy.
If other people are behaving in a reactive manner, at that time for me to remain stable internally, is strength, and
hence Peace is strength not weakness.
Anger is not strength. It is a sign that I have lost control on myself. Even hurt resentment, are silent forms of
anger, and damage me the creator.
My every THOUGHT is followed by a FEELING. So if I am not feeling nice, I have to stop and check – what have I
been thinking?
My feelings over a period of time, created on the basis on my thoughts, develop my ATTITUDE – about people,
situations, work or about the world.
My attitude comes out into ACTION. Any action done repeatedly becomes my HABIT. All my habits put together is
my PERSONALITY. At every step in life this PERSONALITY determines my DESTINY.
I the being am an embodiment of 7 qualities – Purity, Peace, Love, Bliss, Knowledge, Power and Truth.
People predicting our future is only telling us a probability. It is only a prediction, a PROBABILITY, not a REALITY.
We have the power to listen to the prediction, and still choose our response i.e. our thoughts and actions, and
thereby create a reality of our choice.
We always thought we need to do things outside to change the way we feel, but the truth is we need to change
how we feel to change things outside.
Happiness is not to be wanted from people, but is to be created and then shared with people we meet.
We are not human doings, doing things to be at peace; but we are human beings, who are at peace and do things.
We always thought that anger internal is natural, so we created external measures to postpone our reactions. If
we take care of our thoughts, we will not create even the thoughts of anger.
Our thoughts are created based on our past experiences and the information that we take in through our sense
The first few hours in the morning, the absorption power of the mind is very high, we need to take care of the
quality of information we take in. To protect ourselves from creating negative thoughts, we need to avoid
newspapers or news channels early in the morning.
Let me try a new way of living. To be able to create pure, powerful, positive thoughts naturally, let me begin the
day with reading or listening to pure and positive information.
The last layer of information at night influences my quality of thoughts while sleeping. Let’s finish the day with a
few minutes of reading or listening to pure information.
Every time we think of the past we are making it the present, because we are creating the same emotions again.
Past is Passed, Full stop. No why, what, how – full stop. Let it not repeat on the mind, it is like rubbing the wound
and therefore not allowing it to heal.
There is nothing to learn from the situation that happened. The only thing I need to learn is whether I had the
choice of responding in another manner.
Holding onto the past, not letting go – will only create pain in me. The situation is the same, but the longer we
hold it, the pain increases.
In relationships, no when is ever wrong, each one is right from their own perspective. Detaching from my own
perspective and understanding the other’s perspective is empathy.
While working towards our achievements, if we take care not to compromise on our values of peace, love and
happiness, then we will be always contented.
Our thoughts are created based on past experiences, the information we take in and most important our belief
Other’s appreciation and acceptance has become the foundation of our self-esteem, and so we are always
dependent on them to feel good about ourselves.
In interactions, when we get hurt, we are unable to see the perspective of the other, and hence are unable to
understand them. So to understand others we need to remain stable.
People, who accept us today and make us feel good, may not be able to do it tomorrow, and then we feel low
with the same people.
It’s important to take charge of how we feel, instead of being dependent on others. To be INDEPENDENT means
to be dependent only on the one inside.
Let us be ourselves and not keep changing our behaviour according to the way others behave with us.
As we become aware of our thoughts, let’s check the belief system from which these arise.
Anger is needed to get work done. We have lived with this belief system and teach our children to grow up with
the same.
We like people to deal with us with LOVE, because each of us is a loveful being. So everyone around us would like
the same.
Every time we use anger as the tool, we experience the negative energy as we give it to them. They get hurt and
their vibrations travel to us. So we get more than we give.
Our responsibility is to take care of ourselves, then people and then get the work done. Let’s try a new belief
system – Love is needed to get work done.
When we punish a child, the guilt the child creates disempowers the child. Pain can never bring about any
realisation, because there will not be the power to transform.
When we use anger, and others experience fear, we mistake it as respect. Fear creates pain and reduces
efficiency of working.
The ones, who suppress their anger because of fear, then create ager in the presence of those weaker than them,
only to make themselves feel powerful.
Fear and respect can never be together. Respect is pure and positive energy, fear is deep negative energy.
Therefore those who fear us do not respect us.
Ego is lack of Self Respect. In any situation, if we react aggressively or get hurt it is our ego, and if we remain
stable and have faith in ourselves it is self-respect.
Self-Respect means who I am and what I am doing – is the best to my capacity up to the present moment and in
the next moment I am ready to change.
When we have a strong self-esteem, the power to adjust, accept and mould ourselves in situations will come
Spirituality is natural, simple and a very practical way of living. Spirituality is not doing things or becoming
someone, it is about just being who we truly are.
It is not necessary that what the majority believe – is the truth, it is only a belief. Let me experiment with the
belief, till I am comfortable, and only then accept it as the truth.
Let us clean our mind before we meet someone again, so that we do not interact with them through the
perspective of our past experiences, because they could have changed.
As soon as we start creating thoughts of hurt, let us take out a few minutes to be with ourselves and counsel
ourselves with powerful, positive and loveful thoughts.
No one can hurt me, and I do not hurt anyone. My behaviour can be a trigger for the others, I need to change my
behaviour, but I cannot take responsibility of their hurt, it is their creation.
Let us take care that we create the right thoughts, so that we can speak what we think, and do not need to
pretend or be tactful in our relationships.
No one can hurt me, and I do not hurt anyone. My behaviour can be a trigger for the others, I need to change my
behaviour, but I cannot take responsibility of their hurt, it is their creation.
People can hold us responsible for their pain, but if we create guilt, then it is negative energy, it depletes our
power and hence we are not able to transform. Realise means a mistake once, is not to be repeated.
To bring about a transformation I need to know – Why I want to change? What about myself do I want to change?
How do I change? Unless the Why and what to change is not clear, the How will not get implemented.
Everyone around me is an actor, and each one is playing their role. Each actor is a pure being. Let me the pure
being interact with another pure being, not interact with them on the basis of their roles.
When we are natural in our relationships, and accept others as they are, it gives them the freedom to be their
natural selves.
When I am soul conscious, my consciousness triggers the same consciousness in others, and they are able to
experience their purity.
When we are peaceful and stable, then we are happy, and we accept others as they are, it means we love them,
because love is unconditional acceptance.
The energy of love is our natural quality. It gets blocked when we become judgemental about people.
When we think about other’s weaknesses, then their weakness becomes the quality of our thoughts, and very
soon a part of our personality.
Let us become aware and observe one quality in everyone we meet and interact with.
Let us be in the awareness- ‘I am a loveful being, and so is everyone I meet, and I accept each one as they are’.
Accepting people means – their behaviour does not create a disturbance in our mind. We tell them what is right
but with the energy of love, not rejection.
Criticism dis-empowers, de-motivates people. Appreciation empowers and energises them. Let us be aware that
our thoughts should be as sweet as the words we use with people.
We create 25 to 30 thoughts per minute but only a few sentences per minute. Thoughts are more in number and
travel faster than our words.
Let us be liberal with our appreciation, because it gives people the energy to realise and transform their
We cannot make people realise their weaknesses. What to change and Why to change can be realised by each
one only for themselves.
Everyone has knowledge, they do not need advice. They need power to change their sanskars that power comes
from our love and appreciation.
Every thought and word we send out to a little child is being used by them to create an image of themselves, i.e.
their self-esteem.
Ego is attachment to a wrong image of myself. It is when we are not aware of our true identity, and identify
ourselves with all that we have acquired.
Our body, name, position, relationships, caste, nationality are all acquired. They are all mine, but they are not I. I
am a pure conscient being and it is – my body, name, family and position.
A royal soul is the one whose state of mind is not dependent on others. Royalty means being a master of oneself,
not a victim or a slave.
Detachment means my state of mind in not dependent on others, and then I can remain stable and give
unconditional love and acceptance.
Worry is not Love. When we worry we create and send negative energy. In any situation let’s create the right
quality of thoughts that is love, care and concern.
When we remain stable and then share with others – why they need to change, then it is only for their benefit
and not for our happiness
When we learn something pure and positive, we need to take it as a tool and experiment it in the day. See how it
works, check the obstacles, experience the benefits and hence empower ourselves.
We have grown up with the belief system, that performances are appreciated by people. Hence our self-esteem,
i.e. we feel good only when we perform well, and our performance is accepted by others.
Let us appreciate values and qualities in children and people around us, so that each of us is able to build our self-
esteem on our core values and are not dependent on performances or public acceptance.
When we live our lives by our core values, principles and with integrity, then our energy of conviction will
empower our children to live by those values.
Our values and powers are our own; we have the capacity to use them with everyone, in every situation and
every time.
The value of love and compassion is mine, if I can use it with my children, I can also use it with my team at work.
When we go for a spiritual retreat, the environment and the people there awaken the same peace and purity in
us, but it is our own energy which we have emerged in their company. Now we can create it at home and work.
We can’t get peace from somewhere; we can learn the art of how to create it.
Judging, criticising and controlling others deplete our energy of peace. Let us consciously choose not to criticise
and be judgemental about people.
The belief system – life is a competition, creates fear and insecurity and hence depletes my happiness.
My life is my journey, to my destination, at my speed, using my capacity, and on the basis of my values and
Living by the belief system – life is a competition, creates stress, anger, jealousy, hatred and is one of the main
reasons why we resort to unethical practices.
We are not in competition with anyone. Our reference is only our own best, and we keep working towards getting
better than our best. It is a journey of improvement and empowerment.
Let us co-operate with everyone instead of competing. The positivity that gets created within and the blessings
we get from everyone, keeps us contented, happy and successful.
When we compare and compete with others, we create fear, insecurity, jealousy, stress and this depletes our
energy. Let us focus only on ourselves and use all our energy to push ourselves forward.
Let us takes this belief system today and experiment with it – life is a beautiful journey, which I travel according to
my capacity and values. Once we experience the result, then we realise it’s the truth, and thereby change our
When we set a goal, we visualise the goal. Visualisation enables us to create the right kind of thoughts to achieve
the goal. We should not create any thoughts of doubt or fear.
The mind does not understand the language of opposites. If we create a thought – I should not get angry – the
scene that gets created is of anger. Instead create the thought – I am a peaceful being, and visualise the scene of
being at peace in every situation.
Expectation means predicting the future behaviour of others. Letting our happiness be dependent on their
behaviour and then feeling let down if they do not behave as we had predicted.
People around us will behave and work according to their capacity, we can share with them what we feel is right,
but cannot expect that they will always do it our way.
Expectations from children to perform, becomes a pressure on them and creates fear of not being able to make
their elders happy. This lowers their efficiency.
When we do something for others, we do it according to our values and capacity. To expect the same from others
is unfair to them. We need to understand they will behave only according to their capacity. Let us not give up our
qualities because others did not respond the way we expected.
Each thought has an effect on the cells of the body. Wrong thinking manifests itself into a disease in the body.
While we heal the body, let us also change our thinking so that we can experience total health.
Visualisation is a powerful tool along with Meditation – in which we use the power of the mind – sending
vibrations of love and peace to clean and clear the blockages in the body.
To heal the body, we need to heal our emotional blockages. Let us not hold on to anything of the past. Mistakes
we have made, let’s not hold the guilt. It is past. Let us delete that thought and feeling.
If others have done wrong, let us understand – they had logic for what they did. According to me they were
wrong, but still my hurt is my creation, and now I have the power to let go, i.e. not keep those thoughts on my
mind. Everything that happens to me is only a return of my past Karma; let me now settle it with dignity.
If we let people be the way they are, do not put the pressure of our expectations, then we liberate them. This is
love and respect.
Detachment means our state of being is not effect by situations and other behaviours. When we are detached, we
are stable, and hence emotionally available to be there for others. Detachment creates strong relationships.
Attachment, dependence and possessiveness are not love. Because then if one is in pain then the other also
experiences the same pain, and hence is not available to help and heal.
When we start being different, it inspires others to change. We don’t ask others to change. When WE CHANGE
The energy of the food has an effect on the state of mind. So to create pure and positive thoughts we should
consume satwic food, i.e. vegetarian, fresh food, prepared in a pure state of mind and clean environment.
Spirituality means not just to know that ‘I am a soul’, but to ‘Be the soul’, i.e. to be with everyone in the
consciousness of a soul interacting with another soul.
Our consciousness now shifts from body consciousness, i.e. consciousness of body, name, position, relationships,
to soul consciousness, i.e. awareness that ‘I am a soul, and everything else belongs to me’.
As is the consciousness, so will be the memory and so will be the thoughts, feelings, attitude, behaviour,
personality and therefore destiny.
To begin the day in the right way, our FIRST thought should be elevated. The day can begin with wishing Good
Morning to God, our Supreme Father.
Before we begin the activity of the day, let’s be 10mins with ourselves, and create powerful pure thoughts
reminding ourselves of our true identity.
Plan the entire day, as to how we will be in every situation, visualise ourselves in charge of our thoughts, stable
and in control in every situation and interaction.

———- Om Shanti ———-


Episode 1